Reasoning
   with the
            Sisters

 Introductions

CURRENT EVENTS
Good evening. My name is ---- ----. I'm a brother from (name of congregation). Did you see the TV news last night?. . . That report on (mention some current item of concern, not cars or sports), what do you think about it? . . . It is not unusual for sisters to be concerned about these issues, but I believe that we are living in a time when we should be getting to know each other better. (Ask her to go out witnessing with you.)

LOVE/KINDNESS
I have found many sisters are quite concerned about the lack of available brothers in the surrounding congregations.
Do you feel that way too? . . . Why do you think this is the trend? . . .
Did you know that I was interested in you? (Explain the reason why.)

How You Might Respond To Potential Conversation Stoppers . . .

"I'M NOT INTERESTED"
May I ask, do you mean that you are not interested in me, or is it brothers in general that don't interest you? I ask that because I have met many sisters who at one time were interested in brothers, but aren't anymore because they think brothers are hypocritical (or they feel brothers are chauvinistic; or they feel brothers today are not spiritual enough, etc.). I don't approve of such attitudes myself and if you get to know me I believe we could both look to the future with confidence.

OR
If you mean that you're not interested in having another boyfriend, I can understand that. But more than likely you are interested in your future. Can you see any prospect for a relationship in the future?

OR
Is that because you already have a boyfriend? . . . Tell me, do you think you will ever see a time when it will work out? What seems to stand in the way?

"I'M NOT INTERESTED IN YOU"
Many sisters tell me that. Have you ever wondered why brothers like myself keep trying, even though sisters generally may not be interested?

OR
I can appreciate that, because I used to feel the same way about a sister. But, just to be fair, I decided to listen to her, and I found out that I hadn't been told the truth about her. Now we are good friends.

BUSY
Hi. My name is ___ ___. I wanted to discuss with you how we could get to know each other better. But I can see that you are busy (or about to go home). May we get together for lunch on Saturday after field service and discuss it further?

OTHER TIPS
- Keeping good records is the key to following up and developing a study of each other in the future.
- Never ask if she got a chance to read the letters you wrote, instead, ask if she had any questions.
- Always mention that she could make a voluntary donation of time spent with you.
- Be sure to make definite arrangements to get together again...naming the date and time.
- And remember, give HER the chance to accept or refuse...we cannot pre-judge.

Finally, if she refuses, it is not you that is being rejected; rather, it is your message or commitment.

COMING SOON
- Insight On The Sisters - already seven volumes, 
- Sisters - what happens to us when they cry?
- Knowledge that leads to an everlasting Wife.
- Your Youths - Getting the most out of them.